Parenting and teenage children (4/5): The perspective of teachers

Teachers in middle school he found the students changed compared to the past.
The boys are more violent and aggressive, rather they seem to always be in the spotlight, and they seem to know nothing of the rules of conduct that a student must follow.
This is not liars or rebels, as before, but the unruly boys.

Morphology of unruly behavior
Today han difficulty guys to keep silence, to remain attentive in class, listening to their classmates and to respect the needs, in short, they are not inclined to listen to the next.
The need to emerge and to be always in the spotlight can lead to a climate of hostility in the classroom.
In the relationship with the teachers instead, there is a certain lack of recognition of the distances and the asymmetry of roles, the boys struggle to make of her, are spoiled, they seem not to show fear of the authorities, to give too many confidences.
Also missing the culture for common objects, you get to vandalism, there is too much lightness, superficiality.
so it seems that the concept of standards has not been internalized by the children, and this would explain the fact that kids do not notice yourself when transgress, also the boys are accustomed to bargain the rules at home, they think they can do well in school.
The behavior of pupils, also varies according to the teachers, and that shows that compliance is based on the type of agreement established with the individual person rather than on a universe of values.
So it seems that the rules can be accepted here, to find an agreement and a quiet life, and teachers see this as a negative.

The causes of recklessness
The teachers attribute the unruly behavior to 4 factors: the spread of the new educational model, the organization of the school, the particular age of the kids, and the peer group.
Teachers denounce the lack of cooperation of parents who tend to download the school the task of giving the children the rules, and it seems that the teachers do not go well the method of education of the parents, is that of negotiation, is that of too rigid rules that do not they are discussed and reasoned.
Teachers complain that the adult has lost the authority of the past, and instead have used it the same age and peer group, and also complain about the tendency of parents to educate his son for himself, and not for the stranger, so that they give the not too bothered.
Lack the moral rules and those prevailing pragmatic, is referred to go early to bed, set the table, and not of ideals such as honesty, sense of duty, honesty, etc ... and do not talk about studying, but to do well in school.
Parents sometimes also tend to justify the children and harshly criticizing the teachers, because they reflect too much in their creatures, emphasizing the presence of a strong narcissistic investment, and seeing the error of his son as a projection of their error, then straining to deny the error of his son.
Teachers also complain that the boys live in a small family and small, not as a time with so many brothers, uncles and relatives.
Teachers also complain of the fact that the school does not provide them the tools to fix the situation, also it appears to be a lack of cohesion and organization among teachers, maybe a different appreciation of the students' behavior.
Teachers also recognize that boys are especially age, a little 'turbulent and change, where prevail impulses and you are too focused on themselves than on others, and you have the tendency to want to show their superiority.
The teachers also point to the important role of the peer group, where just a negative leader to influence the whole class, or even the fact that a socio / cultural disadvantage (at-risk neighborhoods where there are boys) can be detrimental.
There is also a complaint with regard to the information, it seems that today's kids learn more by television and computers.

The teachers seem to understand that cmq punish and just not needed and you feel so helpless because they do not have the means to intervene, but their purpose remains cmq to make the boys more autonomous decisions, more determined, more responsible and conscious to the rules fundamentals of civil society.

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